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With the Time You Have Left Here

With the Time You Have Left Here
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What ‘In the World ‘ Are You Worried About ?

What in the world are you worried about? I’m sure that we’ve all been asked that question. It’s a valid question to ask yourself. We are all bombarded by situations that give us cause for concern. Problems in the workplace, problems at home and problems in the relationships we have with one another – there is no shortage of problems in this life. That’s true whether you’re a Believer or not. No matter who you are, the temptation to worry about problems is a very strong urge. However if you are a Christian, worry and anxiety are two emotions that you’ll have to extinguish- they are the exact opposite of Faith! Still we are human and we often give into worry without even thinking about it or the effect that worrying has on the body and our inner spirit. The good news is that God isn’t bound by your worrying, He isn’t surprised by it either.

Jesus Christ addressed the issue of worrying about our lives in Matthew 6:25-26 saying (and I’m paraphrasing) that we shouldn’t worry about what we have to wear or what’s on the table at dinner time. He goes on to ask, ‘isn’t there more to life than food or clothing ‘ ? Can anyone looking into a mirror change his or her own height by worrying ? I think the scientific answer to that question is absolutely not! But does that mean that you don’t still worry about things that present uncertainty in your life? Believe it or not my friend- the answer to that question is entirely up to you.

I’ve spent many sleepless nights trying my best to see my way through certain situations that bothered me and I felt justified in my need to worry. I’d worry about my future because of some health crisis that I was facing. Worry about being a widow for the rest of my life or worry over things that I had absolutely no control of- worry, worry and more worry. So much worry that I found myself physically, emotionally and more importantly spiritually exhausted. That’s when The Lord started dealing with me about my emotions- when I was so tired that I gave up and then went into prayer for help. Only then was I able to give it all up to God and understand that He is the Author and Finisher of my life.

I’ve been praying since I was five years old and I’ve been reading the Bible just as long. As an adult with a chronic and painful disease I would find more meaning in the Scriptures than I did as a child and that has been my salvation over the years. Still I have spent far too much of my times in a state of worrying despite my faith in God and God’s Word. I even had to be placed on medication for anxiety. I was told by my doctors that anxiety/depression was normal for someone in my position to have. But eventually I had to ask the Christian in me – should I just accept that? Or could it be that I was missing the point in what I was reading in The Bible? I didn’t know. I did know that I was tired of being tossed back and forth between my faith and my emotions , and I told The Lord just that. That’s when things began to change in me – when I asked for the help and the strength to abide always in the faith and trust that God knows what I need before I even know that I need it. What in the world am I worrying about ? I had to make a choice. I could choose to continue being controlled by my imaginary fears and anxiety or I could choose to trust in The Lord with all my mind and all of my spirit. It all comes down to a matter of trust. You either trust God or you don’t. That being said, I don’t discount that your fears aren’t real or that certain situations won’t be alarming to you. It’s what you do in the midst of your circumstance that makes the difference. Will you choose faith or fear?

Faith is an awesome thing! Faith isn’t bound by time or circumstance.

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What About Your Friends?

“Some friends are fun to be with, but a true friend can be better than a brother.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:24‬ ‭ERV‬‬

When I was a teenager and gained a circle of friends my mom said to me:” Shan friends come far and few between, be careful about who you call your friend “. I heard her in that moment but didn’t get the full understanding of her words until I became an adult. I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with having friends or being ‘friendly ‘. On the contrary. In fact the Bible speaks about friends and friendship on several occasions. I’m simply asking the question : What about your friends? 

Friends are a very integral part of our support systems. In a world so full of chaos and volatility, we all need a strong support system to depend on. Yes, God is our truest friend and you’d do well to remember that always. Still in times when you need an earthy friend – only a real friend will do. 

I’m an outgoing person and I’ve always had friends. In fact I celebrate all of my trusty friends who’ve been there for me in good times and bad. People that I’ve known for years and people who have shown themselves to be friends through and through. 

However, there are those people that I put into the ‘acquaintance ‘ category better known as ‘fair – weather friends ‘. The Bible speaks on this subject as well.  “Every friend declares friendship, but there are friends who are friends in name only.” ‭‭Ben Sira (Ecclesiastes) 37:1 These are the ones that disappear when you get into a battle or you go through hardships. 

I remember when my condition progressed and I was not physically able to ‘go ‘ like I used to. The circle of friends that I had at the time began to dwindle slowly but surely. Even the church friends stopped calling me when the surgeries and extended rehab (nursing homes) stays started . Yes I was hurt by it but I also had the support of my other friends. Truer friends that I came to appreciate more. I had learned to be grateful for my real friends and to ‘be careful about who I called friend ‘. 

Listen, we all need friends. Friends who will tell us what we need to hear and not what we want to hear. In other words, someone who’ll tell you the truth when it’s hard to do so. Think about the things you’ve been through and who had your back when you were going through it. The person that calls you for no other reason than just to say hi and to see how you’re doing- that’s a real friend. Everyone that is your Facebook friend doesn’t count as a real friend. Sorry, but I had to say that. 
Don’t forget that friendship is not a one way street. The Bible says that ‘he that has friends must first show himself/herself friendly ‘. Be a good friend and cherish every friendship like the gift of God that it is. It’s great when my friend Lisa and I just spend hours with each other on the phone. Still I pray for her and her family and she does the same for me. When I awoke from a coma Lisa was one of the faces that I saw other than my husband and family. I value her friendship so much that I lovingly call her Big Sis. She’s not my only friend but she is the only one that I call Big Sis. Everyone deserves to have a friend who garners that type of love and respect 

Today I hope that you’ll be grateful for your friendships. Even the friends that are also family because family doesn’t always mean friend. Call the friend who’s having some issues and encourage them. Express your gratitude to your friends that came to your rescue when you needed them. Even if you don’t have the time to call them, a text message is just as good- as long as you don’t become a ‘digital friend ‘. Above all make sure connect with your Eternal Friend – with Him you can bow your head quicker than you can make a phone call to someone else. 

Have a Great Day and celebrate your friends!

As Ever ,


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Back In God’s Classroom 

Hi guys I have been away for awhile. I just got home from five months of physical rehab. You’ll have to forgive me for my absence ; but there are circumstances that require your undivided attention and unfortunately that meant things like this blog had to take a back seat to my rehabilitation. 

I wrote this at the beginning of my rehabilitation time. My hope is that someone is inspired by this. 
I’ve been away for a good while now. I have had an ankle fusion and then as a result of an infection – two additional surgeries.In fact , I’m writing this from a rehab facility that will be my address for at least a month. I won’t list all the details of my journey to this point but I will say that I have been here before. I prefer to call these detours as being in God’s classroom. Stick with me and I’ll explain. 

Ever felt like everything is just collapsing around you at one time ? Have you ever felt like God has a funny way of showing His love for you ? You can be honest, we’ve all been there on one level at one moment in our lives. We’ve all questioned a loving God would allow certain things to happen to us. If you haven’t – I’ll raise my hand and say I have. 

Trials and tribulations are just the transportation that God uses to get you where He wants you to be. 

Joel Olsteen

Is there any benefit to our pain and suffering?

Take a moment and think back on a situation that you thought would break you. Obviously it didn’t break you but I’ll wager that you learned something. You found out that you’re stronger than you thought you were; or you went from one level of faith to another level of faith. A higher level of faith. A level of faith and trust in The Lord that you would not have reached without the hardship that you encountered. 

God Has A Classroom 

My personal experience has been like being in God’s classroom. Through 13 surgeries and one coma and the sudden loss of my husband. , one thing that has been a constant is The Lord’s faithfulness. Even though I’ve had temper tantrums, questioned God – I’ve been angry with Him , even stop talking to Him.He’s still been faithful. It’s easy to get focused on the situation instead of focusing on the Savior. And I have done that frequently. However, like a ultra dedicated teacher who’s dealing with a problem student – He remained patient and kind. 

What could I possibly learn from the chronic painful condition that I live with daily ? How can I gleen anything from watching my body become scarred from surgery after surgery? Where’s the lesson from that? I’ve had years to answer these questions but I’m still learning so I’ll just share with you what learned so far. 

  • Some things just are , if it can’t be changed we have to  : Acknowledge, Accept and Adapt 
  • Every situation has a lesson in it. Don’t get caught up on the why ? Look for the lesson, I guarantee you that there’s one or more to be found. 
  • No matter what God’s Grace is always with you – shielding you from dangers that you can’t believe. I’ve learned to depend upon His Grace. 
  • Take advantage of the situation. Sharpen your sword by digging into The Word. Increase your prayer life -draw close to God and He’ll draw close to you. Be determined to keep your eyes fixed on Jesus during the storm and watch the chaotic winds of your life become calm with just a word from The Lord. 

While you’re ‘going through ‘ your test or trial , remember that God is good and His mercy endures forever. He’s not punishing you or playing a game to see how far he can push you. Every test is just another moment spent in God’s classroom. A place to learn from the Master. If we view it like that, we’d understand that our storms are temporary and necessary for our spiritual development and maturity. That won’t lessen the pain or the fear and frustration that you’ll feel ; but it will help you put things into proper perspective. 
Furthermore ,it’s important to note that we’re all ‘spiritual beings having an earthly experience.  For every heartbreaking, soul-crushing moment we experience, there’s a spiritual solution. Where there’s no solution- there’s God’s loving Grace there to comfort and guide us. 

Throughout my life I have been confused, frustrated and I’ve felt lower than I can even put into words. But once I felt God’s presence in the midst of my pain – I learned to lean , depend and call on Him when all I wanted to do was give up. 

I also figured out that every struggle, every battle is like taking a medication that leaves me with a side effect. Things like Grace, Gratitude , an enhanced prayer life, more love and wisdom- the list goes on. The point is that I grew spiritually and I grew in ways I couldn’t have grown without the entirety of my experiences. Basically it’s just like the song says “No Cross No Crown ‘. If we never go through anything, how would we learn to put our faith into action? Faith is a spiritual muscle. If you don’t use your physical muscles they’ll atrophy and become of no use to you. The same is true of your spiritual muscles: if you don’t use it you’ll lose it. 

Remember that The Lord never sends harm , hurt and devastation- He only allows it. 

“We know that in everything God works for the good of those who love him. These are the people God chose, because that was his plan.”

‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:28‬ ‭ERV‬‬

Did you get that? Everything in God’s classroom works for our good! That means those hard things that threaten to break your down. That means even the pain of losing my husband will work out for good. I must admit when it comes to that subject – I don’t see how any good could come from that. But I take God at His Word. I’m no longer a freshman in my spiritual education but not yet a senior. So right now I’m back in school. Being tested on the things I’ve learned in the past and being taught some things that I’ll need in the future. 

The best place to be is in God’s classroom. Regardless of what’s going on or what’s happened – in this place we are safe and protected. Given the situation that brought you to God’s classroom might not be a pleasant one – in fact your predicament could be downright heart wrenching but… You can’t look in two directions and get very far. So why not keep your eyes on the Master and His chalkboard. Remember that there’s a lesson in every situation. There is a spiritual benefit to every difficulty you face. So adjust your perspective , pay attention in class , look forward to the lessons you’ll learn and most of all keep your eyes on The Lord!

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Good morning everyone! I hope you haven’t given up on me in my absence. I’ve just returned from my vacation to Orlando and I’m trying to get my mind right. I will say this: I needed that time to relax and do nothing more than I thought that I did.

This morning I had an article that I’d written, edited and ready to post- then I came across something else. An article written by John Pavlovitz , The Kind of Christian I Refuse to Be. I decided that I would share this article with my blog followers; in fact I wish that I had written it myself !
I do hope that everyone will read this article and I believe that those who do will be better for it.

Enjoy and have a Glorious Day!

The Kind of Christian I Refuse to Be | john pavlovitz